- Sexual touching of any part of the body, clothed or unclothed;
- Penetrative sex, including penetration of the mouth;
- Encouraging a child to engage in sexual activity, including masturbation;
- Intentionally engaging in sexual activity in front of a child;
- Showing children pornography, or using children to create pornography;
- Encouraging a child to engage in prostitution.
Be calm.A child may misinterpret your anger at the abuse as disgust for him/her. Staying calm will also help him/her regain his/her dignity, which is often the first to go. Assurances like, “Other children have had similar experiences,” or “Let’s see what we can do,” could encourage the child to open up more.
Be supportive.Talking about the abuse can be as traumatic as the abuse itself. Adults must give the child as much support as possible, especially when the child begins to open up. Reassure the child that you’ll be there for as long as it takes, and that you’ll go through it together.Report the abuseThis is one way to stop the abuse. Moreover, everybody is mandated to report all confirmed or suspected cases of abuse within 48 hours.
Believe.Children rarely invent stories. They hesitate telling because they fear nobody will believe them. Believing a child is a major step in helping him/her overcome the trauma. Statements like “I believe you” or “It’s not your fault” will help the healing.
Be affirming.Abused children are often confused about their feelings, as a result of manipulation by their abusers. They must be allowed and encouraged to say what they feel. And their feelings must be taken seriously and affirmed. “I know this isn’t easy,” and “You’re very brave to be opening up,” convey empathy, concern and support a child’s need.Prepare the child for what will happen nextAbused children feel helpless. They need to know that there are people who can help. They must also be told what they could do, i.e. how to relate the incident, whom to tell, and what support is needed.
She threatened to kill herself at school.
Judy is a ten-year-old girl who was referred toFor The Child's Mental Health Program because she locked herself in a bathroom stall at school and threatened to kill herself. Judy has lived in more than twenty foster homes and has been admitted to psychiatric hospitals several times for treatment of depression.
Judy was physically and sexually abused by her stepfather from the time she was a toddler until early elementary school age.
Many of her previous foster placements failed because the foster families could not handle the severity of her mental health problems. Although Judy has many challenges in her life, she has shown definite improvement during her treatment at For The Child. She uses her therapy time well to learn ways of coping with difficult memories and emotions. She was very touched at Christmas by the special gifts she received from For The Child donors, including a beautiful coat and a hand carved wood jewelry box. The best gift of all was sharing Christmas with a supportive foster family.
Tom was a friend to all of the children in the apartment complex. He was also a registered sex offender, but no one knew. Sammy and Tommy were lured to his apartment with the kitten story, sexually assaulted and tied up. An intense search for the boys by law enforcement and neighbors saved their lives.
I believe that we can be proactive and its not an issue to have this kind of awareness.People should know and learn the least about this.Thank you. :)